Disclaimer: A LOT OF THIS IS ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE ADVICE. EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. SOME THINGS END WITH PEOPLE BECAUSE OF REASONS OTHER THAN THEM HURTING YOU AND IN THAT CASE, IT MAY BE VERY MUCH WORTH IT TO KEEP THEM IN YOUR LIFE. ALSO, I do most of these things because I like them/hanging out with friends, not to forget about someone..but they do help in trying to forget.
1. Clean. Clean everything. Clean tables and floors and people and cats. Just clean. At the very least the chemicals in the cleaning products will get to your head and make you forget about things for a second. BUT DO NOT USE CHEMICALS ON CATS. On some people it's okay. Use your morals.
2. Read. Books are great. But be careful, some books will make you think of things that are relevant to the particular person you're trying to forget. Avoid books close to reality. Delve into sci-fi and non-fiction about people whose lives are completely different to yours.
3. Watch movies. The same warning for books applies here.
4. Listen to music WITH headphones. This will avoid you thinking that any sound like a car door closing or a door being knocked on relates to you. THEY ARE NOT COMING. People cannot read your mind and it is unlikely that the person/s you want to see know you want to see them and even if they do, this is not a a movie: If you're trying to forget about this person for some reason, it means they probably will not come. Be honest with yourself.
5. Talk to people who like talking non-stop about themselves. This will avoid questions such as "So how are you and X doing?" or "How are you feeling about X?". This will also avoid you saying "OH I HAVE THE FUNNIEST THING TO TELL YOU ABOUT X". NO. NO ONE CARES. YOU SHOULDN'T CARE. X is not in your life anymore for a reason. Stop talking about them. Stop thinking about them. X may have been nice at one point but they are not now. And if they are, care about them and appreciate them but don't let yourself drown in thoughts of them.
6. A lot of people will tell you that being upset and angry is the worst time to do drastic things such as get a haircut. I disagree. Do you need to throw out some things you've been hoarding such as clothes you never wear anymore? Do it now. Do you need to talk to someone at work about an awkward issue? Do it now. Do you really feel like buying that expensive item of clothing you've had your eye on? Do it now. This leads onto the next point.
7. Buy things. Buy things you like. Things make you feel better until you can do any of the other things on this list. Yes we live in a materialistic world and it's terrible but sometimes it's just good to give in to what you want in a place where you won't be hurting people. Note: ensure the clothing you are buying does not come from a company that exploits its workers/uses child labour.
8. Surround yourself with people. Even if you feel terrible and lonely, at least there's a chance talking to people will at least distract you for a second more than being alone would. Besides, some people are great. Let the world remind you that some people are great.
9. Go bowling. Bowling hurts hands. That distracts your mind. Bowling also means you can hit pins. Imagine pins are people and hurl that heavy ball down the bowling floor.
10. Focus on being happy and thankful about life in general. Thank the person you're trying to forget. If it weren't for them, your house wouldn't be clean and you wouldn't have nice clothes and you maybe wouldn't have caught up with friends.
11. Start a new project. A difficult and tedious one. A project that will make you wish uni/school/work could start sooner. I'm not going to tell you to start exercising or meditating but if you think this will help, DO IT.
12. Cook. Making your family/friends/yourself meals is very rewarding, especially if they like it! It will also mean some recipe research. Make something difficult you've never made before that requires a lot of time and effort. Trying not to burn yourself or the house down will mean you are less likely to think about other things.
13. Remind yourself that all people have things that you really liked about X. Other people have nice arms and soft lips and soft hair and make you laugh and are nice to you. And other people are better because other people have not hurt you.
14. Remember that things end for a reason. Sometimes that reason is not obvious and that's okay. Get used to not needing to know the answer to everything. This will help you in many things including physics.
15. Find your own sense of self worth. Who are you? What do you give back to the world? If you don't know the answer to these questions, find them and do more things to give back. Don't let X define you. If they think you're amazing, have faith that other people will too and that they weren't just a rarity.
16. Stop trying to come up with terrible excuses to call them. It won't change anything and you'll be left feeling more pathetic and empty than you did before.
17. Paint your nails. Painting your nails can be hard. Hard things are good.
18. Stop trying to ignore them and avoiding places you've gone together and things you've done together. Avoiding and ostracising people takes effort and control. It requires you thinking about them. So don't. Go wherever you want to go and if they talk to you, talk to them somewhat. Besides, what are you going to do? Never listen to X band again because their song played when you were with this person? Maybe you really like X band. Maybe X band deserves to be listened to. X band has never done anything to you. It's not their fault this person has hurt you. LISTEN TO X BAND.
19. Learn about something new. Like otters or the human body or forests.
20. Convince yourself the situation will not change. If it does change at some point, cross that bridge when you get to it but for now, imagine everything stays like this. Don't be scared to forget about the person because in 3 years things might be dandy with them again. No. It won't be dandy again. Some people don't ever really change so you can let yourself forget about them. You won't lose anything from it. Yeah you might never meet someone like this again but maybe that's a good thing if it ended like this.
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